Do you know the signs of abuse? Are you in an abusive relationship? If not you personally, maybe you have a friend or loved one who is? Are you in a position to offer help to someone to get her out of the domestic violence situation she finds herself in? Share the following 50+ best help for abused women to find hope and healing in their lives.

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Healing after abuse is a long hard path and healing doesn’t happen overnight. Trust me, I know. How? I walked that path and it isn’t easy to overcome. It takes time and patience, and I took counseling. Share the following resources with your family member or friend so they can have hope and happiness again.

I suppose a bigger question you may need to consider is do you know what signs to look for in someone who may be dealing with abuse, aka domestic violence? I will explain how I know the warning signs.

I can help you or someone you may know to overcome abuse. Lastly, I want to explain how to live a victorious life and find healing after abuse.


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What Is The Best Way To Find Help for Abused Women

Sweet friends, finding healing from abuse can be a long hard road with many ups and downs. How do I know this? This was my life for many years and I understand and know what it’s like to be the “victim” in a domestic violence situation. I know how it affects you both short-term and long-term.

What makes me qualified on the topic of abuse?

I was in an abusive fifteen-year marriage that almost broke me. In all honesty, it’s only by the grace of God that I’m here today. You can read my personal story in the e-book found at the end of this page.

Now, it’s my passion to equip women by sharing the eternal hope and healing I found in Jesus Christ. Only by surrendering to God, I finally broke the chains and ever-present reminder of the pain and fear that comes from being in a domestic violence relationship.

The main focus of this page is to offer help for abused women, equip you to know the signs, and let you know you are not alone! So, that being said, let’s get started.

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What Are the Signs of Domestic Abuse AKA Physical Abuse?

In all honesty, abuse is not as easy to explain as you might think. That’s because domestic abuse is about controlling other individuals’ minds and emotions as much as hurting their bodies.

Secondly, when you’re an abused woman it will leave you both scared and confused. It can be hard for you to see your abuser’s actions for what they are due to beaten-down self-esteem.

Physical abuse more often than not isn’t what takes place first. Abusive behavior can creep up slowly. A demeaning put down here or there.

Also, an abuser will use every excuse possible to keep you away from family or friends. Isolation is the “hold” they have over you.

The violence significantly increases once you’ve been cut off from other people. At this point, you’re feeling trapped.

This is why it’s of the utmost importance if you suspect a friend or a family member is in a situation like this find a way to intervene and get help for abused women.

If you’re afraid of your partner, that’s a big red flag. You may be scared to say what you think, to bring up certain topics, or to say no to sex. No matter the reason, fear has no place in a healthy relationship.

If you think you’re being abused pay attention to your instincts and seek help right away. Please keep the following signs in mind as you read them. See if you fall into any of these scenarios.

Abuse Checklist

What are the Statistics on Domestic Violence in Abused Women?

As you read the statistics below I pray it proves how real abuse is in our nation today and informs everyone not just those who find themselves in an abusive situation.

Lastly, drug and alcohol addiction plays a huge role in domestic violence. You will find numerous resources below in this area as well.

Information for Domestic Violence Statistics is provided by Great List

Nearly one in four women in the U.S. reports experiencing violence by a current or former spouse or boyfriend at some point in her life.

On average, three women are killed every day as a result of domestic violence.

More than 40 percent of female murder victims are killed by their husbands or boyfriends.

Data collected in 2005 found that women experience two million injuries from partner violence each year.

Women ages 20 to 24 are at the greatest risk of experiencing nonfatal intimate partner violence. They also experience the highest rates of rape and sexual assault.

More than 80 percent of victims of domestic violence are women. About 75 percent of the people who commit domestic violence are male.

Women who have experienced domestic violence are much more likely to have a stroke, develop heart disease, develop asthma, and drink heavily than women who haven’t experienced DV.

Sexual and domestic violence is also linked to various reproductive health issues, including sexually transmitted infections and HIV, miscarriages, and risky sexual health behavior.

What is the Hotline Number and Help for Abused Women of Domestic Violence

If you need immediate assistance contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline Number for HELP and the number is 1-800-799-7233.

Domestic Violence Websites that Offer Help For Abused Women

Once you have recognized the warnings of Physical Abuse you need a plan of action to seek safety for yourself and your children.

What are the Warnings and Plans for Domestic Violence Abuse Safety?

What are the Signs to Look for in Verbal Abuse?

What is considered verbal abuse?

Verbal abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse, and harder to determine. You must understand that Abuse comes in various forms and not all of them are physical. Verbal Abuse side effects remain long after physical abuse, unfortunately.

When an individual repeatedly uses words in a demeaning or frightening way, that is the definition of verbal abuse sweet friend.

However, you will start believing this behavior is “normal” as it slowly wears down your self-worth and self-esteem. Avoid the lies that invade your mind.

Let me give you examples first before proceeding to the list of resources. The number to call for Verbal Abuse HELP is 1-866-223-1111 or Text 612-399-9995

What Are Examples of Verbal Abuse?

  • Frequently yells or screams at you.
  • Hits the walls pound their fists or throw things.
  • Arguments take you by surprise but you get blamed for starting them.
  • Makes you feel guilty and consider yourself the victim.
  • Gets into your personal space or blocks you from moving away.
  • Wants credit for not hitting you.
  • Insulting and humiliating you then accusing you of being sensitive or saying they were joking and you have no sense of humor.
  • Uses hurtful behaviors when you’re alone but acts completely differently when others are around.

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What Is Considered Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse can also be considered brainwashing due to the consistent bashing of your self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in perceptions, and self-concept.

In other words, you find yourself constantly being berated, belittled, and intimidated, all of these have the same result. The prevention line to call is 1-800-273-8255.

Eventually, the recipient of emotional abuse loses all sense of self and personal value.

Emotional abuse cuts to the core of an individual leaving behind scars that are far deeper and long-lasting than physical scars.

You reach a breaking point and want to find hope when you reach the end of your rope so to speak.

What Are Some Emotional Abuse Help to Connect With?

Abuse Books Recommendations

Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

This helpful guide reveals how those who have been emotionally abused can overcome the past and rebuild their self-image.

Gregory Jantz

Rock Bottom and Faithless – Defeating the Lies of Domestic Abuse with God’s Truth

Sue Parisher & Rebecca Davis

Becoming separated from an abuser doesn’t necessarily relinquish the brainwashing control and power they have over you.

To become a true survivor, you have to:

  • Identify the deeply rooted lies of my abuser that I believed were true
  • Extract the lies
  • Lean on God’s strength to defeat the lies and replace them with His word
  • Acknowledge that the trauma experienced from the abuse left physical and emotional scars that need to be further explored

Trust me, when abuse is removed, God’s grace and love take over and are replaced with calmness and peace you never thought would be possible. 

Healing the Soul of a Woman – How to Overcome Your Emotional Wounds

Joyce Meyer

Can a woman who has been deeply hurt by life’s circumstances be healed, heart and soul? If she has been wounded by a man she loved and trusted, can she love and trust again?

As a woman who endured years of abuse, abandonment, and betrayal by those closest to her, Joyce Meyer can answer with a resounding “Yes!”

Meyer’s positivity comes from living her journey, and from seeing so many women who don’t believe they can fully overcome their pain–or even know where to begin–find the guidance they need in the life-changing wisdom of the Bible.

Beauty for Ashes – Receiving Emotional Healing

Joyce Meyer

Many people seem to have it all together outwardly, but inside they are a wreck. Their past has broken, crushed, and wounded them inwardly. They can be healed.

God has a plan, and Isaiah 61 reveals that the Lord came to heal the brokenhearted. He wants to heal victims of abuse and emotional wounding.

Joyce Meyer is a victim of the physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse she suffered as a child. Yet today she has a nationwide ministry of emotional healing to others like herself.

In Beauty for Ashes, she outlines major truths that brought healing in her life and describes how other victims of abuse can also experience God’s healing in their lives.

You Will Learn:

  • How to Deal with the Emotional Pain of Abuse
  • How to Understand Your Responsibility to God for Overcoming Abuse
  • Why Victims of Abuse Often Suffer from Other Addictive Behaviors
  • How to Grab Hold of God’s Unconditional Love
  • The Importance of God’s Timing in Working Through Painful Memories

What Would Jesus Do About Domestic Violence And Abuse Towards Christian Women?

Chloe Cummings

A Biblical and Research-based Exploration for Church Leaders, Counselors, Church Members, and Victims.

A biblically-based book that researched Jesus’ life as one who experienced violence and abuse both personally and otherwise. It shows Christians and others how to address domestic violence and abuse like Jesus did by listing dozens of abuses that Jesus experienced.

Identifying specific things Jesus did in abusive or violent situations, and featuring 77 cases in which Jesus demonstrated specific behaviors in response to abuse and violence related to both victims and abusers.

Is It My Fault?: Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence

Lindsey Holcomb

Is It My Fault? This book is a message of hope and healing to victims who know firsthand the depths of destruction and reality of domestic violence.

At least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex, or abused in their lifetime. The effects of domestic violence are physical, social, emotional, psychological, and spiritual, and can have long-lasting distressing consequences.

Is It My Fault? This book challenges and addresses the issue of abuse with the powerful and transforming biblical message of grace and redemption. It deals with this devastating problem and sin honestly and directly without hiding its prevalence today.

Many victims who reach out to churches in times of need receive blame, disbelief, suspicious questions, bad advice, platitudes, and shallow theology instead of care and compassion. Rather than pat answers, victims need practical victim advocacy full of biblical and theological depth.

Lindsey Holcomb

Finally Free: My Story of Healing from Abuse

FINALLY FREE: A Story of Healing From Abuse

What you can expect from my Testimony on Domestic Violence

  1. A quick read (26 pages) where I detail the abuse I endured in my 15-year marriage. The secret confession that I haven’t been able to share with others until now.
  2. Sharing that “real life” isn’t perfect and it can be messy but through God’s Grace and Redemption we can “let go” & “let God” heal areas in our lives that only he can do.
  3. No SIN committed will make God love you any less (though I thought that wasn’t true of my Sin for the longest time) covered by the bloodshed on Calvary.
  4. Prove you can leave your shame and regrets behind you and place them at the feet of Jesus. It’s no longer ours to carry.
  5. Jesus Freely Forgives…Forgiving ourselves is where the issues lay. Learn through my story not to carry the burden that’s meant for us to hang too so tightly.

Recently I came across biblical counselors and websites that I thought you might find helpful to contact…Women Against Abuse.

Learn about ways to Protect Children:

Learn more about child sex abuse and ways to help them!! BE A VOICE FOR VICTIMS!!

Your Turn

I hope you find the resources and help for abused women practical, truthful, inspiring, and encouraging. I want to close by giving you one last option to reach out for help. I am by no means telling you to leave your abusive situation. I assure you I’m not a counselor or therapist. However, I am qualified to share my personal story of abuse. That being said, if you are afraid and fearful of your life I want to share my experience with you and let you know you’re not alone. I have been in your shoes and understand all the feelings you are facing. Your priority is finding safety for YOU and YOUR children if you have any.

Note: All information on this site is for educational purposes only. Angela Cleary does not provide medical advice. Please consult a physician if you suspect medical problems or need professional advice.

Angela | A Voice Against Violence

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